Honoring The “Right” Quest

wednesdays with wayne Apr 10, 2019

You have dreams and aspirations.  Maybe they’re active. Or, maybe they’re buried.  And in this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, we’re looking at the Quest you’re on.  

Daring to honor your dreams is an entirely separate topic. Let’s just put it out there: You owe it to yourself and the people you serve to step further into your dreams because the chances are likely that you become a better human for doing so.  And that means, you enhance those around you. Bottom line on the Pursuing Your Dreams thing – Do It!!!

Which one(s)?

How do you know that the quest you’re on is the right one?  
The answer is simple – your passion ignites. Your quest becomes a calling.

I’ll go personal here for a second to see if this resonates with you.  For a long time, I don’t think I had anything I called a hobby. I practiced and taught martial arts.  I performed magic in a local night club on a weekly basis....

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Dealing With Pushback

wednesdays with wayne Apr 02, 2019

You’re on a quest.  You have a direction.  You’re asking for support.

And then… someone put’s a little pin-prick in your balloon by saying something like, “I don’t think that’s such a great idea.  It’s not something *I* want to do.”

Your balloon deflates slowly.  And in this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, we’re looking at what to do when you get pushback.

You could take that as a personal affront.  
The idea and the project were yours and someone doesn’t like the idea and, worse, doesn’t want to go along?

Now what?

You could get super-parental.  “Oh you WILL do this because I said so.”  That’s using positional authority and will get zero buy-in, though you may get your way.  And, you’re not that kind of leader. You don’t fling your power about based on your title or position.

So, what to do?  Well dear leader, you get to get curious....

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How To Feel Free

wednesdays with wayne Mar 26, 2019

This week’s Wednesdays With Wayne invites you to explore some irritants you have carried all these years, those stories you’ve hung onto, and the wrongs that you know deep down, can never be made right.

Today, you get to look at how to break free of all of that.

Welcome to a new vitality.

A few days ago, I did a FB Live Video that centered around second chances.  In the video, I asked a few questions:

  • Have you ever felt like you needed a second chance?
  • Does someone or some business or some product you use deserve a second chance from you?
  • Ultimately, what are your criteria for giving a second chance?

 These are the building blocks to THE Step that will set you on the path to living with greater freedom.

When you’ve felt wronged, your reaction will go in a couple of predictable directions: You either lash out, retaliating for the violation, or you withdraw, awaiting an apology. On either path, you have made a judgement about the other person.


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Boundaries Define You

wednesdays with wayne Mar 19, 2019

This week’s Wednesdays With Wayne focuses on how we become who we are and how we break free from who we were.  Drawing on my background in psychology, let’s take a ride back to childhood and adolescence.

The short version is this – First, there’s Mother+Child.  That’s all one unit.

As the child grows, there’s a sense of “separate” though the emotional bond is still prevalent.  

The child learns that she/he can impact the world (by pulling on things, crawling, etc.) and the seeds of independence are planted.  

This repeats in adolescence.  There’s a sense of being a part OF the family and then there comes a point of resistance to prove differentiation and become apart FROM the family.  (A quick grammatical aside: notice the difference between a part of and apart from.   That’s a little English lesson for those that think apart is always one word.)

We see that drive to separate (called...

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Taking Advantage of that Bull-Stuff

wednesdays with wayne Mar 12, 2019

My clients ask me some great questions.  This week’s Wednesdays With Wayne is in response to an inquiry about how to be a high performer in the world and still deal with all the stuff that falls on you.  It feels personal, like you’re just trying to make your way in the world, and something falls on you. That B.S. that comes down on you feels like it could bury you.  And yet, you DynamicLeader® you…  You’re finding your way to a light in the darkness.

I’m reminded of a parable that talks about farmer’s donkey who fell into a dry well.  No one could figure out how to get the donkey out. The well was too tough to get down into and tie a rope around the donkey.  After some deliberation, the farmer decided that since it was a dry well, he’d have to say farewell to his donkey and just fill in the dry well.  

He got a group together to begin filling in the hole.  The donkey was stuck. It was dark. And...

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Work-Life Balance and… Tacos!!!

wednesdays with wayne Mar 05, 2019

One of my private coaching clients just asked me about Work/Life Balance.  He pointed to an article that said it’s time to bust the myth of balance. It’s funny, because it’s long past time.  With a slight flare of ego, I noted that I’ve been saying that for the past decade. So in this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne (your weekly blog of inspiration and insight), we’ll explore this concept and the concept of What Tacos Have To Do With Work/Life Balance!!!

C’mon in!!!

Alright, so there we are.  Each of us is given a handful of hours each day, well, 24 of them to be exact.  We all have the same amount (unless you’re changing time zones or you’re facing a shortage due to an arbitrary shift on Sunday for daylight savings time).  But all of that is beside the point. The point is this: We all have 24 hours in a day.

Sometime back in the 80s (that’s the 1980s) someone decided that they were working too hard....

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THE Pathway for Growth Is…

wednesdays with wayne Feb 26, 2019

I had lunch with a friend and a deep background of struggle.  His insights inspire me and even as we walked to the parking lot, the challenges to thinking continued.  We talked about kids. We talked about our businesses and what lay before us. We talked about our own personal development.  And we each shared a bit about the significant transitions we’re in.

My friend and I each talked about the love and respect we have for what brought us to this place.  As I said, we’re each facing our own transitions personally and professionally.

Maybe you can relate.  You’ve been traveling down a path that seemed so right and so aligned and then some outside force came in and spotlighted the opportunity (or need) to take a different path.  You could be pretty happy on the path you’re on. You could, at the same time, be aching for more…. You could be longing or something bigger as somehow, your life seems just a little smaller than...

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Who’s Watching You?

wednesdays with wayne Feb 20, 2019

Do you ever have the feeling that you’re being watched?  It’s not a paranoid thing. It’s a reality. You really ARE being watched!

The odd thing about social media and selfie sticks and all the public attention that happens is that you might end up asking yourself, “Do I look okay?”  Instead, we all need to be asking ourselves, “Who is watching me today?”

For better or worse, you are a role model for others.  

Your family is watching how you show up and respond in certain situations.

Your team is watching how you show up and respond.

And since you’d like to be seen as someone who is present and (mostly) in control of themselves, you need to be worried less about what you look like and more about who you are being for the people around you.

You are seen and judged.

We all are.

The question really is in whether your authentic self is showing up consistently.  

I used to show up as “DR Pernell” with a capital...

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Doing What Others Can’t

wednesdays with wayne Feb 13, 2019

How is it possible that some people get so lucky?  

I mean, really, how do some people seem to do what others can’t do?  

Recently, for example, I’ve been on stages in both Hollywood and in New York.  My first book, Choosing Your Power, is having a resurgence of interest, and a group of good people is coming together for my Stuck At The Top breakthrough retreat to be held in San Diego in April.  

Dang, all of that, and more?  I really AM pretty “lucky!”

In sports, how did Steph Curry or Jerry Rice get so talented?

Think back to your high school, think about that person who got those good grades and how she just made it look so easy.  

How did actors like Will Smith or Dwayne Johnson make it so big?

What do all of those examples have in common?  

Yeah, well, spectators will call it luck.  Do-ers know better.

Really, most people don’t see how much goes into the easy-looking outcome.

I began writing this week’s ...

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Lost In The Sauce

wednesdays with wayne Feb 05, 2019

We use the term “train wreck” to describe something that’s horrible, but we can’t seem to look away from.  In fact, we’re drawn to it and if someone – a fellow human – is described as a train wreck, it means that there’s a lot that has gone really wrong in their life (and you’re glad you’re not them, bless their heart).  

Have you ever called yourself or anyone else that?  

Ohhh myyyy gawwwdddd… what a train wreck!

Your friendly train wreck is a human who has lost his or her way.  I recently heard a more tempered version of that term: “lost in the sauce.”  

And here’s your happy truth for this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne – no one is 100% put together all the time.  Not you, not me, not Tony or Brendon or Gary, or Simon, or Oprah or your mom, or your dad.  

No one has it 100% together 100% of the time.

When you’re in that space of unmotivated and...

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