Those three words – Values, Vision, and Vitality – have come up a lot, haven’t they?

These key stepping-stones are at the foundation of my work with exceptionally high-performing leaders. Without them, you won’t have an effective organization and, dare I say, you will never feel quite fulfilled in your life. 

How do you really get that sense of personal and professional well-being? This is about Exponential Success™ and it’s yours to step into.

First – 

Recognize that your values have changed over time. They’re supposed to. You’re not who you were. Your organization doesn’t exist in the same era as when it was founded. You’ve changed. The people around you have changed. The world's culture has changed. 

So what do you value now?

Where do you see yourself and your organization heading?

What values must you live into in order to attain that big-idea goal?

Next – 

Your Vision (yes, I always capitalize that word) directs everything and everyone. It is the filter for...

I’m going to give you the punchline right up front.

They were playing a ground game.

The tortoise and the hare were playing small and got so many things wrong. That means that “slow and steady wins the race” is an antiquated way of thinking. So is a jackrabbit start. They were missing so much.

First, they compared their progress to each other.

Stop it. Your progress is to be compared to your yesterday. Are you better in any way from yesterday (in health, wealth, wisdom, or relationships)? What did you do to grow or lift someone else? Start there.

Next, they played small by not recognizing alternatives. They had their own attributes and whose race were they running? While the tortoise couldn’t run as fast as the rabbit, the rabbit would have been a dehydrated mess had they decided to go across a desert since the tortoise can survive a year or more without water. (Yes, I just looked it up so I could share that trivia tidbit with you.)

Neither of them looked at alternati...

The chopping boards have mounds of ingredients waiting for you to scoop them up.

There’s a light smell of onions in the air and you’re sautéing mushrooms and prepping potatoes that are already at a rolling boil. You’re warming a light coating of oil in a pan to receive the main protein. 

Maybe it’s pancakes, bacon, and eggs.

And maybe, just maybe, it’s your life.

Maybe it’s your relationships, your health, and your career.

Maybe it’s your philanthropic endeavors, your social engagements, and your financial status.

Maybe it’s your vacation or recreation.

You’ve got them all bubbling away. You’re simmering some, bringing up the heat on others, and ready to wash out the pan for another.

It’s your life. 

There are projects that require some seasoning while others you needn’t touch for a while (do not open the lid while that rice is cooking). That could be related to investing or weight loss, for example. Track it, but let the work happen. 

The point here is t...

Today’s post is kind of personal. I’m sharing my journey with you and I’m hoping you can find yourself in it. It’s reflective; I seem to be doing that a lot these days.

There’s an old saying that’s like a riddle that goes: 

Do you know what happens if you don’t step out of your comfort zone?

Absolutely Nothing! Nothing happens. Nothing changes. And you die a little each day. Or, you awaken to alternatives and make different choices. You expand your life and the lives of those around you because you choose to do so.

Growth is hard. It means learning new things and sometimes it means relearning things you thought you knew but – the harsh reality is – you’re just not that good at those things so you gather the equivalent of tutors to get you through. (Pssssst, in the adult world, they’re called coaches.) I’m doing that. And by sharing, I hope you’ll be inspired to step into your own growth. The world needs you.

Stepping into Exponential Success™ means that you’re choosing to...

Tomorrow is my birthday and every year, I treat this as my personal New Year. 

It’s a time of renewal. 

It’s a time to reflect on the year that has gone by, celebrating the successes, and documenting the things that didn’t go as planned so that I might learn. Key point: there are no failures, only lessons. 

Key Questions:

• What were the lessons from this past year?
• What am I planning for and building into for the year ahead?

I do this annually.

Yes, I use January 1st as a time to do this, as well. 

And I do it quarterly.

Because my birthday lands so close to the end of Calendar Q3 (the third quarter of the year), it works out well. 

I use a Life-Balance Wheel that I developed. It’s not the only one out there, and this one works for me. (If you’d like a copy, email me and I’ll send you one.)

I have a segmented wheel that I assess how I’m doing in each of eight areas. If this were a wheel that I’d be driving on, how smooth would my ride be?

These are the a...

Here’s a thing on my list. It’s important. Do I actually intend to do it?

I sometimes feel great putting stuff on my to-do list. 

• Do a blog post. Check!
• Clear email. Check!
• Prepare for client calls. Check!
• Climb Mt. Everest. Uhhh, let’s roll that over to tomorrow, still at a priority level 1, but we just won’t do it today. I’ll handle it tomorrow. And well… then it might roll to the next day.

We give ourselves the pat on the back for even thinking it’s something we’ll get to. It’s a badge of honor to have it there. And when other “stuff” consumes the day, we justify the rolling of the priority item.

That item could be related to health, to your finances, to your business, or your household. Yes, changing the wiper blades on your car is important. Oh, didn’t get out to do it, roll it over to tomorrow. Yes, calling potential clients is important. Oh, didn’t get around to doing it? Roll it over to tomorrow. Um… NO.

I’ve titled this blog specifically: 

Here’s a thi...

Most people like to win. Some people LOVE to win. Some people will die trying to win.

And so you know where I’m coming from, winning isn’t bad. It’s just not what you think it is.

Winning often means gaining some advantage at the expense of someone else. I saw this in couples’ work all the time. And then it would repeat in the corporate setting, between colleagues and across departments, where “winning” becomes exceptionally destructive. 

Yes, “winning” a contract means that others lost out on getting that contract. And no, if you’ve won it, you don’t have to share it. The truth is, you worked hard to win. It’s not an accident you came in first. And that is something to be proud of.

So what’s the problem?

Some people think in terms of win/lose in almost all situations. They’ll negotiate about everything and if they don’t get some kind of concession, they construe a loss. If a person only feels like they’ve won if they successfully ask for and receive some kind of di...

You don’t have to believe in yourself all the time. You can borrow my belief in you.

I love that. We all need that to keep going sometimes because we run some pretty lonely miles in order to create our own personal successes.

What you do matters. Remember that.

And during the times that you question, “what’s it all for?” and “is it really worth it?” remember that what you do matters at every touch point to the final outcome. 

Give yourself the applause.

Ask for the parade if you want it.

Get grateful and give gratitude. 

Become grateful for the opportunity to serve.

Show gratitude when others are in their process, whether that’s your family members or work team-members. 

Do you get applause for just doing your job?

UNPOPULAR OPINION – While the current thinking is, “no, little snowflake, just do your flipping job,” the truth is that when you receive gratitude for the efforts you’re exerting, you’re motivated to do more.

The truth is, people do more of what ...

A few decades ago, while earning my PhD, I was working as an employee assistance counselor. One of the major railroads was in our client services group. And one day, a man comes into my office dressed in overalls, he pulls his newspaper from his back pocket and lays it on the desk as he sits down. 

He looked distraught.

Was he here for help with drugs or alcohol?

Was he here for his relationship that’d gone badly?

I’d pretty much heard it all. And I was eager to help.

After I asked him how I could help him, noting that he looked almost defeated and that I was there to help him, his gaze slid up from his shoes to meet my eyes.

“The department of transportation is changing their rules.”

“Oh, and that affects you?”

“Yes sir. I’m an engineer.”

“Of the big trains? That’s awesome.” I smiled, truly awe-struck. My thoughts fleeted - That’s a lot of responsibility and not something I could do, that’s for sure.

“Yes,” came the simple reply. His eyes dropping aga...

Clarity of desire helps you get clarity of direction. It is SO important to have that, so that you can have clarity of expectations.

Then you can ask yourself:

• What do you expect?
• Do you expect it from others (e.g., family or team members)? 
• Do they know?
• What are you getting? 
• If it matches expectations, did you praise them (and/or yourself) for hitting the target you wanted?
• If it didn’t match expectations, do you know how to adjust?

You’ve got to get clear.

You’ve got to stay clear.

And you’ve got to communicate in a way that others are clear, as well.

Clarity really does count on all levels.

“I want a coffee” is a different statement from “I would like a small Americano with almond milk, please.”

You’ll get a warm beverage in both cases, one may be for you, the other may not.

Be direct.

Be kind.

People don't know what you're thinking. They may guess, but they'll often be off, guessing wrong. When you lead, whether that's a team, a family...