DR. WAYNE PERNELL

That’s how you got to where you are – you said yes in a strange, circuitous, series.  Looking out over the bluffs at Cabo San Lucas, I got into a discussion with a gentleman who had flown in from Australia.  Kirby pointed out that in order for a gathering of so many great minds at a location like this, you had to have said YES in multiple different scenarios.

It’s a courageous word, YES.  

There’s a lot of work that has gone into the “It’s time to say NO to more stuff” movement.  And, to a degree, it’s true.  We clutter our schedules with things that ultimately don’t really matter.  And we need to say “No” more often.

I think we need to say YES more deliberately, too.

And you’re here because you’ve got a mission.  Somewhere deep down, your work will change the lives of other people.  In this Wednesdays With Wayne, you get to explore how to amplify that.  You...

You’re still in the first month of the year.
So how did everything you’re working on get so harrrrrrdddddd???

There really is so much to do that trying to do it all is overwhelming.  It’s so hard that it makes you feel like you want to pack it all in, shut it all down, go back to bed, and hide under the covers.

How effective do you feel hiding out?  

Yes, rest is an important part of refueling.  That’s different than full-on retreat because you’re experiencing overwhelm.  You’re in the whining/hide-from-the-world place because you’re chasing too many projects all at once and… you don’t feel effective anymore.  

It… got… too… harrrrrrrddddddd…. (insert your own whining tone here)

Welcome To Your Wednesdays With Wayne

Perspective shift and tactical moves are needed here!  To move from whining to winning, you need to do a few things:

1. Look at your projects
   1. Track the tasks...

Just try to paint the Golden Gate Bridge!

It’s only a couple of weeks into January!  How can I feel so far behind already?  I’ve heard this from clients and people close to me.  It’s easy to understand how you might be feeling that way.  

You’re a high performing DynamicLeader®.  That means, you’re on the go and your to-do list is miles longer than anyone else’s.  The problem is, that to-do list might have once been a badge of honor.  It’s now a burden.  

So… what to do….?  What to do…?  

Dump everything onto your to-do list.  Not OFF of it, onto it.  Seriously, spend about 10 minutes and think of every little detail you need to do in the next week or month or quarter.  For example, not only did I have a stack of things I needed to scan and get out today, I also have travel arrangements I need to make for next...

We’re in the second week of the New Year and you’re struggling with those goals.  The story you tell yourself is that you missed the starting gun so you shouldn’t run the race.  The story you tell yourself is that if you can’t do it perfectly, you shouldn’t do it.  The story you tell yourself is . . . what exactly?

It’s Blunt Reality Time here at this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne.

You don't have perfectionism. You have a fear of being a failure and being judged for it. You have a fear that being judged means you won’t be accepted.  Ostracism – being separated from the pack – is such a powerful social/survival force, that we humans will do almost anything to avoid it.  You call it perfectionism.  So, you CHOOSE not to start. That way, the failure that you're experiencing is an outside force on you and not something that you're responsible for.

THAT is faulty thinking.

Perfectionism is putting...

You made it!  Happy New Year!
This one is quick – There is one word that will set you up for failure when you’re looking at your New Year’s Resolutions.  Now, I know some people are refusing to make “resolutions.”  I used to play that game too.  I don’t have resolutions, I just have things I want to accomplish this year.  It’s a BS way of not committing.  

Commit to YOU.
Invest In YOU.

And… PLAN FOR YOU!!!

In this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, the focus is on sowing the seeds today for the crop you want to reap tomorrow.  That isn’t some haphazard, random activity.  That’s a planned event.  

None of my DynamicLeader® students ever say, “well, hopefully this will be a better year.”  

And that’s the word you’re eliminating:  Hopefully…

Just for fun, say these two statements out loud.  Seriously, there’s a reason I ask...

Most people miss this.
It’s not a fund.  It’s not crypto-anything.

This week’s Wednesdays With Wayne is about something much more critical than financial investing.

The most critical investment as you turn the calendar and find 2018 staring at you is YOU.  Most people miss the fact that they need to invest in themselves.  How can you step into a higher level of productivity if you don’t find a new perspective?  How can you think differently or challenge others to think differently if you don’t push yourself out of the thought processes you’ve already learned to enjoy?

I live Happily Dissatisfied.  

Some people think that’s weird.  How can I live my life dissatisfied?
I don’t live my life offended.  I don’t live my life wishing it were different.  In fact, I live my life full of joy and happiness.  And it’s only from there that I can say… I want more.  I want to...

The title of this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne says it all, really: Love Them Fuller  - it’s grammatically incorrect and so full of everything else “right” that I just had to capture it when a client said it to me this week.  That was her goal for herself; it’s something she wants to bring to her family and her team.  As part of her “homework” in my private DynamicLeader® coaching program, she’s challenging herself to “Love Them Fuller” and I’m pushing that forward to you!

And at this time of year, we all need to be thinking that way, don’t we?

There are stressors.
There are things to do, to buy, to get, to avoid.  There are charities in need.  And, there are people around you who need your presence.  You are needed.  The YOU that has your presence… YOU are needed.

And you need to do just one thing:  Love Them Fuller.

Love them – your family, your...

My travels take me to all kinds of places.  As I write this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, I’m at yet another airport, the overhead announcements blare, and I’ve just completed (at least a portion of) a conversation with the woman sitting next to me.  We spoke about travel.  We spoke about the holidays.  And the theme of all that we spoke about came down to how pretty much everything has two sides to it.  

I travel… a lot.  Her remark that “everything is both good and bad, I guess” struck me.  It’s true.  I love where I’m going.  I don’t love the getting there.  I don’t love the good byes.  I love the hellos.  I love the process I get into once I’m there.  I don’t love the good byes.  I don’t love the travel.  I love coming home.

It’s the holidays.  Some people love them.  Some people… well… not so...

My wife and I have an evening ritual, a thing we do after dinner.  We’ll wash up the dishes and head outside to sit at our fire pit.  Yes, even when it’s flipping freezing outside, we enjoy our time together that way.  We’ll continue our dinner conversation, spending time talking about the day, about what’s coming, and about our aspirations and dreams.  That’s an important thing – talking about aspirations and dreams, both as individuals and as a couple.  We’re “empty nesters” at this point, so it’s just us, supporting each other into our next phase of what we want for ourselves as individuals, what we want for and from each other, and what we want together as a couple.

This week’s Wednesdays With Wayne centers around the fire pit.

As we had our “fire pit time” recently, the conversation came around to those mentors we have and those others we see out there on Social Media.  I...

Someone just wrote to me and said that his biggest issue was that he’s now only getting about four hours of sleep a night.  He’s so charged with ideas that he doesn’t feel he can sleep.  His mind is racing.

If you’re an entrepreneur, your mind will race.  It just will.
You’ve got details to track.
You’ve got opportunities to explore.

And, the gentleman who wrote to me commented that he supposes all high performers must not sleep.  There’s so much to do.  There’s so much to think about.

Right?

Welcome to your Wednesdays With Wayne.  

My answer was a surprise to him.  I said, “Actually, high performers learn how to block time in order to get the sleep they need” and to hit the productivity levels they want to hit.  And that’s true.  My dissertation (yes, the “doctor” part of my title comes from clinical psychology) was on sleep and daily functioning (specifically...