DR. WAYNE PERNELL

Did you ever feel like you gave everything you had to give – to a project, to your workday, to your kids or your partner…?  And then, even with all that you gave, there’s a demand for more?

It happens.  Sometimes we give our all.  Sometimes, after giving our all, we’re asked to give even more.  In a recent all-hands meeting that I attended, the CEO opened the meeting by talking about, “digging in.”  

And that’s what it takes to get to your next level.  

Here’s the thing - you’re doing great!  That’s what’s brought you here.  Doing even greater requires you to find that extra, to push that bit more, and in building on last week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, to really be deliberate about your actions during the day.

How do we find what it takes to be that bit better? 

Where does that kind of energy come from?  

A half-marathon is a race that...

Yep!  You’re good.  You’re pretty darn good. And still, do you know what the research says about taking all of that up a notch (or two or 10)?

If you practice something long enough, you’ll be good at it.  And that’s the danger.  Yes, just practicing something could damage your potential.  In this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne let’s look deeper at what gets in the way of making you truly GREAT.

Have you ever felt like you’ve hit a plateau?  Whether you play golf or tennis, paint or sculpt, or do what you do for a living, could you get better at it?

Yes.  Yes you could!

Climb into your way-back machine and note that in the late 1970s a lot of research came out about the effects of visualization on performance.  What was reported was that those (athletes) who practiced their art in their mind’s eye actually performed better when it was game time.  To a certain degree, mental rehearsal is almost...

Have you ever felt just slightly “off,” just getting through your day, but distracted and not fully IN your day?  It happens to all of us even High Performance DynamicLeaders.  It happens to us less because of one simple habit that we practice regularly.  Welcome to this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne!

We declare our intention for the day.  We start with Mindset and that builds emotion (a strong feeling) before setting out into the day (action).  

To repeat that – you MUST start with Mindset to create the FEELING you want to have before you begin DOING anything!!!

Personally, I choose my mindset every morning.  After greeting the day with “Thank You” and starting with gratitude, I set my intention for the day.  It’s like a mini-Vision and it keeps me balanced and directed.

You could choose to be joyful, grateful, intentional, or bold!  You could choose just about anything, the thing is… you get to...

Have you ever come face-to-face with doing something that is diametrically opposed to the advice you give others?  This is probably the toughest Wednesdays With Wayne that I’ve ever written because, well, I just had to reconcile my actions against my words.  I was looking for all kinds of reasons not to write this one.  I’ve even had some great concepts for other blogs I could do this week and yet, I don’t think I can rest until I get this out.

True confessions?  Maybe.  And I do so in the spirit of sharing authentically so that we all might get better.

I like to think I’m making a difference in the world, don’t you?  I mean, that’s why you’re here.  So let me ask you this… have you ever given advice that deep down you knew you had to heed?  Maybe it was to tell people to eat better or suggesting your favorite exercise that you’re not even doing anymore.  Maybe it’s as simple as...

Parents and people-managers have a lot in common.
Maybe you’re working with a team or perhaps you’re in a family, either way it’s very likely that you’ve faced some hard decisions about offering corrective guidance.  You’ve endured times when you’ve just hoped that people would get a clue and work things out on their own.  You’ve faced the dilemma of having to step in to say something all the while you’ve been wishing that the problem would simply disappear.

Welcome to this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne where we’ll look at the “hard” stuff.  This one is a tough one because it comes from recent personal experience in needing to own some stuff that wasn’t always fun to admit.  And still, to get better, we each have to own where we can get better.  This is the stuff you have to do in order to get to the stuff you might actually like to do.  

Keep in mind that management is a...

Have you ever dreaded something because, well, you know it’s going to be horrible?  A lot of people dread going to the dentist.  Here in the U.S., most of us dread going to the Department of Motor Vehicles.  But why?  

You were trained to expect misery!

In this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne we’ll look at how that happens and how to stop it!

Pregnant women are never met with “oh how wonderful, you’re going to have an amazing experience.”  Nope.  What happens is that everyone comes out with their own story of what pregnancy and childbirth is like.  I know this is odd coming from a guy; it’s something I’ve noticed and it’s a great example of what we do to spread the misery when we really don’t have to!

We play “Can You Top This” with our horror stories.  

“Oh, you were at the DMV for two hours?  I was there for three… four… five… two...

Over the past month, the topic of Work/Life Balance has come up so many times, I took it as a sign that you would want to take a closer look at that in your Wednesdays With Wayne this week!

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Here’s the question: is there really such a thing as balance? We look for work/life balance, but there’s no really balance, is there? In fact, it never feels like quite enough.  There’s always more to do at work. There is always something missing at home.   And free time?? Really?

So the whole concept of work/life as being some form of balance is really a total myth! What we have is life!

What We Have Is LIFE!

How we fill the time we have each day is totally up to us. Really. How we fill that time we have each day really is totally up to each...

Have you ever felt… done… just, done?  There’s no more to give and you might even be too worn out to receive.  You’re tired all the time and you’ve got a low–level of irritability brewing so you feel like you could snap at the people you work with and/or the ones you care about.  You feel stressed and you gravitate toward the “wrong” foods – you don’t need sugar, carbs, alcohol, or more coffee (no, really you don’t need them), yet you find yourself seeking them.  Even sex seems like it’s just too much trouble.  You wonder whether you’re depressed and to answer that question, you curl up in a ball on the couch or in bed (perhaps taking some chips, cookies, or ice cream with you) as you get numb with the TV.

Honestly, most of us have felt something like that at some point.

It’s called Burnout and it happens when you get sleep deprived and give until you don’t have...

How do you get people to support your dreams and goals?

The answer is that you do it the same way that super leaders become SO influential!  In this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, you learn two simple secrets to becoming more influential and enlisting support for your goals and dreams.

Organizations (including families) begin their failure path when the leader(s) lose track of their values and purpose.  Without those core foundational elements, how can you expect people to line up to follow and support you.

We need to know what you believe in.  That means, YOU need to know what you believe in.  It’s time to reflect inward for a moment (yes, again) and call out three to five core values that you hold dearly.  It really doesn’t matter what they are as long as they’re yours.  You could value love, church, health, excellence, learning, competition, or greed.  Think about it, come up with your own list and recognize that really,...

You know when you see someone struggling with something and you are just itching to help them, but you don’t dare because you don’t have that kind of relationship with them?

Sure, sometimes you extend a kind gesture for a stranger.  I’m thinking bigger.  What I’m talking about is your ability to really step in and guide someone, to change the trajectory of their lives, if even for a moment.

In working with clients across the country (and around the world) the thing that stands out is that they are in a business of helping others.  As individuals, you want to have a positive impact on the people we encounter.

And while you might want to be that proverbial boy scout who walks the little old lady across the street, she has to want to accept your help.

The question then, is this:
How do you get people to accept the help and care you offer? 

The answer – TRUST.

In order to be influential, you have to demonstrate that you are trustworthy...