The Intolerable Threat (not political)

wednesdays with wayne Mar 13, 2024

The reason that there’s no such thing as “an overnight success” is because it’s a process. A journey. And there’s something pretty special that happens on that journey.

 

The problem is, most people can’t handle it.

And that is why, my friends, more people aren’t even more successful. 

 

There lurks a threat, popping up multiple times along the path toward new levels of success. Organizations experience growing pains around it. Individuals stop and retreat to the most unhealthy relationships (with people, food, drink, etc.) because of it.

 

What is the most intolerable threat that those on The Journey must encounter?

 

Change.

 

   Change Is An Intolerable Threat

 

How can that be so? Simply this – your subconscious has a current baseline for how you operate. You seek approval in certain areas, and you tolerate chaos in others. You have a safety range for finances: you won’t let things...

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The FOG and The FEAR

wednesdays with wayne Mar 05, 2024

Have you ever been in such dense fog that you couldn’t see the house across the street? Or driven in something like that where the cars in front of you seem to disappear in the mist?

 

It’s freaky. If you’re driving, your survival instincts kick in. You want to live and you become hyper-alert. You turn down the radio and you might even crack the window so you can get a “smell” of what’s to come.  

 

Amazingly enough, all of that is natural. Your awareness through other senses offsets the fear of the unknown conditions that you’re facing.

 

Now, you’ve been with me long enough to know where I’m headed with this. So, go ahead and extrapolate to your own life.

 

What you’ll want to keep in mind is this – when we’re in an unknown situation, we don’t think about it like driving in the fog. When we’re driving, we know that it’s a patch – long or short – that...

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Shake It Off

wednesdays with wayne Feb 27, 2024

What happened? It’s the end of February and the plans/goals/resolutions you made just seven or eight weeks ago have started to lose their strength in the way you’re living your year. Yes, you might be on track with one of them. Good going! 

 

And the others?

 

You’re proving to yourself that you’re just not trustworthy (harsh, I know). Think about it. How convicted are you about any of the things you said that you wanted to accomplish? 

 

I used to lie to myself all the time, too. I can do this, and by a month from now, I’ll have done that. And… and… and….

 

And when it didn’t all come together, I’d vacillate between flogging myself for not being good enough and forgiving myself because it was a lot to take on anyway and I was just being unrealistic.

 

I don’t do that anymore. 

I’m careful about my commitments to myself and others.

 

I’ve had people invite me...

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TRUTH and POWER

wednesdays with wayne Feb 20, 2024

The TRUTH is that you’re bigger than the life you’ve been leading.

 

The truth is that it really is possible to be, do, and have more, all while giving yourself more freedom. 

 

What stops most people from having the life that they really want is that they don’t believe that those truths are true.

 

Your personal power comes in the form of declaration (about what you want) and a certainty and faith – a strong belief – that what you want not only can happen, but already exists.

 

The caveat to this is that you can’t wish for or make a declaration about someone else’s engagement with you. “I wish that person would be more loving towards me” isn’t about you, it’s about the other person. You don’t have control over their truth.

 

What you do have control over is what you’ll bring into, and/or no longer tolerate, in your life. Using the example of wanting to be shown more love,...

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I KNOW What You Want

wednesdays with wayne Feb 13, 2024

It’s Valentine’s Day and a lot of people are posting sappy-sweet things out there. 

I don’t begrudge them their gooey tidings. I’ve been known to get mushy here and there. 

Just stay aware of feeling swept away by this day being a holiday of sorts. Like so many of our current celebrations, the origins are centuries old (dating back long before St Valentine became a martyr) and not what you might imagine. I’ll leave you to do your own research on this. 

 

Today, I just want to put your head back in the game.

 

What game?

 

This Valentine’s Day – that is TODAY – it’s important to think about yourself. First of all, you can’t give what you don’t have. That means, you have to make sure you’ve got the energy reserves to muster up some kind of positive emotion for the people you see every day. And if you inwardly acknowledge that doing so is hard, you might, maybe, possibly need to give...

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Driven By Values: LOVE

wednesdays with wayne Feb 06, 2024

How many businesses do you know that operate with LOVE as one of their core values? While some individuals might bashfully admit that they experience love and they like the idea of love, and somehow highlighting it publicly, especially as a core value, seems a little much.

 

It’s not.

 

From my DynamicLeader, Inc. Vision Statement comes this value:

Love – This is the thread that weaves through all of the values and the work.
We feel it, we create it, and we bring it to all that we do.

 

I have ten other core values I’ll be sharing with you over time. I think it’s important that you know how a human like me and a brand like mine lives. 

 

It doesn’t mean that I don’t have boundaries or might not have to do hard things sometimes. I do. And it’s still done with love. As an example, I’ve told a client that I wouldn’t abandon them and that I also wouldn’t rescue them. It’s self-serving and makes...

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Right NOW

wednesdays with wayne Jan 30, 2024

The opening to Van Halen’s song, Right Now, goes like this:

Don't want to wait 'til tomorrow
Why put it off another day?
One more walk through problems
Built-up and stands in our way

Alex Van Halen, Ed Van Halen, Michael Anthony, and Sammy Hagar

 

We’re at the end of January. One month behind us in this New Year and you might have a few things on your “list” already. “Oh, I’m gonna.” 

“I’m going to do that, someday soon.”

Ouch.

 

I don’t have many regrets in my life. One big one was being in such denial about how ill my mom had become before she passed away several years ago. I told her I’d come to visit soon.

I had not made time and when I finally put a date on the calendar to get to visit, she passed the day I was to visit. My “someday soon” had blown past. 

 

I can’t undo that. And again, this was several years ago.

 

While I can’t go back in time, what I can...

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Being Me

wednesdays with wayne Jan 23, 2024

Great coaches have great coaches. The learning never stops. It’s how I keep ever more sharp in service of my clients. 

 

Part of the work is to let go of the things I picked up along the way – the ways of being that served me when I was younger that no longer serve me and, in reality, haven’t for some time.

A quote attributed to Michelangelo goes, “The sculpture is already complete within the marble block before I start my work. It is already there; I just have to chisel away the superfluous material.” Each of us has a masterpiece within. We’re living with the “shoulds” and “supposed tos” imposed by others.

As I’ve opened to becoming more me, I’ve found a joy – I mean real, profound joy – something that eluded me for decades, in letting go and opening up to possibility. In the past few years, I’ve grown exponentially. And my growth has been foundational for the work I do in my...

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Addition By Subtraction

wednesdays with wayne Jan 16, 2024

The bills are coming in, the resolutions are dropping off, and the tensions related to getting back to reality are seeping through. And just like that, you’re backsliding.

 

SNAP OUT OF IT.

You don’t get to backslide on my watch. It’s not what you’re doing here and it’s not who you are. Is going back easier even if it means there might be drama? Yes. Yes it is, even if it means more drama. That’s because your subconscious knows how to do the “put up with drama” loop.

 

Here’s what’s important to keep in mind: When you let go of the things you’ve been tolerating – that includes tension and drama – you become more.

 

There is addition to you by subtracting the detractors from you.

 

You become lighter, more focused, and dare I say, even joyful!

 

The bills – be joyful that you are paying them because of what you got in return for creating a delayed payment. The resolutions...

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Let’s See

wednesdays with wayne Jan 09, 2024

We’re just a couple of weeks into the New Year. 
And it’s time to interrupt the saying, “Let’s see what the New Year holds.”

I just can’t wait to see what the New Year will bring. 
Well, let’s see.

 
What did last Thursday bring?

What did June 5th bring?

What did any random date actually bring?

 
If you lock yourself in your home and wait for something to be brought to you, you’re going to be disappointed. 

 

The truth is, it’s not about what the New Year will bring.
It’s about what you will do to grow yourself 
so you have something to bring to the New Year. 

 

There’s no date on the calendar that is waiting for you to get to it before bringing you a reward. In fact, it’s every date on the calendar that is waiting for you to show up at your best, having grown from the day before.

So what do you want to have done by the end of the year? On New Year’s Eve, think about...

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