No one sets out to make a bad impression. Sometimes we stress about making a good impression, especially if it’s the first time we’re meeting someone.
But a subtle mistake stops people from deepening a relationship with you – whether that’s a working relationship or a personal relationship. In this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, you’ll see the difference in approach as you engage with others.
There are two styles in engaging with others:
You could show up like a puppy, wagging your tail, tongue hanging out, and piddling on the carpet. “Do you like me? I’m likable! I like you! Do you like me?”
Approval seeking in whatever form it takes never creates the desired outcome you’re after. In essence, you’re saying, “I want you to like me so much, I’ll be who you want me to be.” If that’s the...
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Go, go, go, go…. GO!
Do you ever have the feeling that no matter how busy you are, there’s always so much more to do? Maybe your blood pressure rises just a bit when you hit yet another red light (literally or figuratively) in your day.
How do you make the set-backs matter rather than feel run over by them?
Seriously, how can you get over YOURSELF long enough to realize that all of those setbacks aren’t being done TO you? Because it’s THAT that causes the bump in blood pressure and the gritting of teeth. The band headaches you have at the end of the day come from the stacking of teeth-gritting moments in the day.
So how do you stop that? Welcome to your Wednesdays With Wayne where you’re reminded to live into your Best Self with tips every week.
Last week I offered you an example of how patience...
I sit here on the stairs
'Cause I'd rather be alone
If I can't have you right now, I'll wait…
(from Patience by Guns n Roses)
Have you ever wanted something to go your way? Of course you have, no one sets out on their day hoping things won’t go their way. The thing is there are a lot of factors playing into what our “way” is.
In fact, if you think about it, there are so many factors that feed into the path we’re paving, it’s really amazing that we get our way at all. And today, in this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, let’s look at a few things that affect your getting what you really want.
Intentionality & Clarity – Think about the last time you were really clear… I mean REALLY clear about what you wanted. In Choosing Your Power, I called that your EPO or Envisioned Positive Outcome. When you are super clear about what you want, you’re more likely to get it. The more specific the...
You’ve been getting some updates about the new course I’m creating and, today, as you read this, we’re part way through filming. It’s pretty exciting and there’s still time to jump in on the fun. It all starts at noon pacific time. Not only am I filming, but I’ve got some fun giveaways, too. Check it out here: Behind-The-Scenes Filming of The Direct Power System™ Course
So just what IS a DPS™?
It’s actually personal… it’s your Direct Power System™.
Have you ever felt like your communications were just missing the mark? Like YOU know what you meant but no one seemed to take what you said with the importance it had for you?
Have you ever felt like you could help someone if they’d only let you?
Or maybe you find yourself wondering if you’re in the right place… like you’re out of place because you’re not actually owning your space?
Did you ever feel like you gave everything you had to give – to a project, to your workday, to your kids or your partner…? And then, even with all that you gave, there’s a demand for more?
It happens. Sometimes we give our all. Sometimes, after giving our all, we’re asked to give even more. In a recent all-hands meeting that I attended, the CEO opened the meeting by talking about, “digging in.”
And that’s what it takes to get to your next level.
Here’s the thing - you’re doing great! That’s what’s brought you here. Doing even greater requires you to find that extra, to push that bit more, and in building on last week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, to really be deliberate about your actions during the day.
How do we find what it takes to be that bit better?
Where does that kind of energy come from?
A half-marathon is a race that...
Yep! You’re good. You’re pretty darn good. And still, do you know what the research says about taking all of that up a notch (or two or 10)?
If you practice something long enough, you’ll be good at it. And that’s the danger. Yes, just practicing something could damage your potential. In this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne let’s look deeper at what gets in the way of making you truly GREAT.
Have you ever felt like you’ve hit a plateau? Whether you play golf or tennis, paint or sculpt, or do what you do for a living, could you get better at it?
Yes. Yes you could!
Climb into your way-back machine and note that in the late 1970s a lot of research came out about the effects of visualization on performance. What was reported was that those (athletes) who practiced their art in their mind’s eye actually performed better when it was game time. To a certain degree, mental rehearsal is almost...
Have you ever felt just slightly “off,” just getting through your day, but distracted and not fully IN your day? It happens to all of us even High Performance DynamicLeaders. It happens to us less because of one simple habit that we practice regularly. Welcome to this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne!
We declare our intention for the day. We start with Mindset and that builds emotion (a strong feeling) before setting out into the day (action).
To repeat that – you MUST start with Mindset to create the FEELING you want to have before you begin DOING anything!!!
Personally, I choose my mindset every morning. After greeting the day with “Thank You” and starting with gratitude, I set my intention for the day. It’s like a mini-Vision and it keeps me balanced and directed.
You could choose to be joyful, grateful, intentional, or bold! You could choose just about anything, the thing is… you get to...
Have you ever come face-to-face with doing something that is diametrically opposed to the advice you give others? This is probably the toughest Wednesdays With Wayne that I’ve ever written because, well, I just had to reconcile my actions against my words. I was looking for all kinds of reasons not to write this one. I’ve even had some great concepts for other blogs I could do this week and yet, I don’t think I can rest until I get this out.
True confessions? Maybe. And I do so in the spirit of sharing authentically so that we all might get better.
I like to think I’m making a difference in the world, don’t you? I mean, that’s why you’re here. So let me ask you this… have you ever given advice that deep down you knew you had to heed? Maybe it was to tell people to eat better or suggesting your favorite exercise that you’re not even doing anymore. Maybe it’s as simple as...
Parents and people-managers have a lot in common.
Maybe you’re working with a team or perhaps you’re in a family, either way it’s very likely that you’ve faced some hard decisions about offering corrective guidance. You’ve endured times when you’ve just hoped that people would get a clue and work things out on their own. You’ve faced the dilemma of having to step in to say something all the while you’ve been wishing that the problem would simply disappear.
Welcome to this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne where we’ll look at the “hard” stuff. This one is a tough one because it comes from recent personal experience in needing to own some stuff that wasn’t always fun to admit. And still, to get better, we each have to own where we can get better. This is the stuff you have to do in order to get to the stuff you might actually like to do.
Keep in mind that management is a...
Have you ever dreaded something because, well, you know it’s going to be horrible? A lot of people dread going to the dentist. Here in the U.S., most of us dread going to the Department of Motor Vehicles. But why?
You were trained to expect misery!
In this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne we’ll look at how that happens and how to stop it!
Pregnant women are never met with “oh how wonderful, you’re going to have an amazing experience.” Nope. What happens is that everyone comes out with their own story of what pregnancy and childbirth is like. I know this is odd coming from a guy; it’s something I’ve noticed and it’s a great example of what we do to spread the misery when we really don’t have to!
We play “Can You Top This” with our horror stories.
“Oh, you were at the DMV for two hours? I was there for three… four… five… two...