Have you ever been really hard on yourself for starting something and then not following through? Your diet failed. Your exercise plan failed. Your “read a book a month” plan failed. So… did YOU fail?
Here – you’re forgiven and you get a “do-over.” Yes, in this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, you’ll move from being down on yourself to taking positive action.
So many people condemn themselves to feeling like a failure that the REAL failure is that of forgetting to take inventory of where you are right NOW. Current state is the baseline. Not where you were. Not what you thought you’d be able to do. And certainly not your New Year’s resolutions.
The thing is that, at this point, we’re almost into Q4 of this year. So what?
That’s a calendar’s assessment of time. What you have is NOW.
So powerful are these words and this sentiment: I see you, Human.
Who are we in the world if not to recognize another? In your role(s) as leader, parent, friend, or dishwasher, isn’t it important to humanize the people in your world? At a restaurant, it’s a human that takes your order and brings you food. In a professional setting, both patients and practitioners are human.
Acknowledging the human experience is just SO important.
About 20 years ago, I started writing my first book. The working title was A Worthy Struggle because I recognized how each of us has something that is uniquely ours. We might have similar struggles. We are unique in our perception and interpretation of them. And, my point was that the struggle we engage in, as a human, is so worth it. It really is A Worthy Struggle. That book evolved because I found myself focusing on the pain....
I just heard a speaker say that you don’t need to tell people your problems, 90% of people don’t care and the other 10% are glad you have them. It’s interesting. When I share things, it’s not about the “problems,” but actually simply about what’s going on. I don’t look for sympathy. Certainly, it’s as simple as understanding. In this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne I’ll take you for a look at problems… mine and yours. So, why am I shaking…?
I was at dinner with a friend I don’t get to see in person much. I explained that she might see my hand shake a little. I could feel it coming on and wanted to let her know I wasn’t having a seizure or going through DTs. My conversation was simply to convey information – there’s a hereditary condition that has to do with what’s known as...
Have you ever found yourself worrying about something so much you were almost to the point of tears?
Traffic is terrible. The people you’re waiting to get an answer from aren’t calling you back. There are two meetings in different places you’re supposed to attend. You’ve got multiple projects going at work and more projects going at home. You’re juggling and stretching the resources you have. You wonder how to get it all done, how get in that workout, and how to eat right, AND still to have some downtime.
Today’s Wednesdays With Wayne isn’t about productivity; it’s actually about saluting the absurd in honor of humor and your health.
By acknowledging the small absurdities in your life, you actually gain a perspective that allows you to put the bigger stuff in a handle-able order. That is, when you get tense about being tense,...
Over the past year, I’ve been sharing the topics that have cropped up in my life during the week. They’re current. They’re real. And this week, on more than just a handful of occasions, the topic that’s THE key ingredient for great leaders has shown up – over and over and over again.
From research noted at some of the greatest international companies to personal contacts with clients, the thing that predicts your success is your willingness to grow yourself combined with your drive to grow the people in your organization (business, family, or community).
So in this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, I ask this question:
What do you get when…
What do you get when you invest in your learning?
A funny thing just happened to my friend, Mike. It reminded me so much about a story that I tell, that I just had to bring it to you!
In this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne we look at how YOU are so much like a Dragonfly, you might need someone to “shoo” you on your way.
A dragonfly got into the house. That’s supposed to be lucky… unless you’re the dragonfly. Or you have cats and you’re trying to have a restful afternoon.
So this dragonfly gets in and buzzes around and then it finds the glass door! It hits the glass pane. It buzzes up against the glass pane. It pushes hard against that clear glass pane. It pushes against and flies into the glass over and over and over again. You can tell it’s trying to get back out. It knows it can do it. It must.
In fact, the door is open....
No one sets out to make a bad impression. Sometimes we stress about making a good impression, especially if it’s the first time we’re meeting someone.
But a subtle mistake stops people from deepening a relationship with you – whether that’s a working relationship or a personal relationship. In this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, you’ll see the difference in approach as you engage with others.
There are two styles in engaging with others:
You could show up like a puppy, wagging your tail, tongue hanging out, and piddling on the carpet. “Do you like me? I’m likable! I like you! Do you like me?”
Approval seeking in whatever form it takes never creates the desired outcome you’re after. In essence, you’re saying, “I want you to like me so much, I’ll be who you want me to be.” If that’s the...
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Go, go, go, go…. GO!
Do you ever have the feeling that no matter how busy you are, there’s always so much more to do? Maybe your blood pressure rises just a bit when you hit yet another red light (literally or figuratively) in your day.
How do you make the set-backs matter rather than feel run over by them?
Seriously, how can you get over YOURSELF long enough to realize that all of those setbacks aren’t being done TO you? Because it’s THAT that causes the bump in blood pressure and the gritting of teeth. The band headaches you have at the end of the day come from the stacking of teeth-gritting moments in the day.
So how do you stop that? Welcome to your Wednesdays With Wayne where you’re reminded to live into your Best Self with tips every week.
Last week I offered you an example of how patience...
I sit here on the stairs
'Cause I'd rather be alone
If I can't have you right now, I'll wait…
(from Patience by Guns n Roses)
Have you ever wanted something to go your way? Of course you have, no one sets out on their day hoping things won’t go their way. The thing is there are a lot of factors playing into what our “way” is.
In fact, if you think about it, there are so many factors that feed into the path we’re paving, it’s really amazing that we get our way at all. And today, in this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, let’s look at a few things that affect your getting what you really want.
Intentionality & Clarity – Think about the last time you were really clear… I mean REALLY clear about what you wanted. In Choosing Your Power, I called that your EPO or Envisioned Positive Outcome. When you are super clear about what you want, you’re more likely to get it. The more specific the...
You’ve been getting some updates about the new course I’m creating and, today, as you read this, we’re part way through filming. It’s pretty exciting and there’s still time to jump in on the fun. It all starts at noon pacific time. Not only am I filming, but I’ve got some fun giveaways, too. Check it out here: Behind-The-Scenes Filming of The Direct Power System™ Course
So just what IS a DPS™?
It’s actually personal… it’s your Direct Power System™.
Have you ever felt like your communications were just missing the mark? Like YOU know what you meant but no one seemed to take what you said with the importance it had for you?
Have you ever felt like you could help someone if they’d only let you?
Or maybe you find yourself wondering if you’re in the right place… like you’re out of place because you’re not actually owning your space?