We’ve heard about “flow” and what it means to be in it. Think about - truly reflect and call up the memory of the last time you experienced it. It could be back when you were in school, playing sports, or practicing an instrument.
For some it is being present with their kids. For others, the flow state comes when they’re sitting on a beach soaking up the sun, listening to the waves. And for some, it’s much more active, losing yourself in a movie or cheering on your favorite ball players.
What that has to do with Revealing Reality is this - your Wednesdays With Wayne hug and gentle nudge - when you experience that sense of ahhhhh and nothingness and time both flies by and stands still, you’re just present.
Nothing else exists except that moment. That moment is one of pure presence and nothing else comes close to this living, breathing meditation that you didn’t get to accidentally. You created it. And you created it...
We let so much “stuff” into our lives that it feels like we’re being pulled in all kinds of directions. Sometimes, there’s no time for doing what matters. In this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, you’re getting a hard shove back into commanding your life.
When you take command of what matters to you, then you stop letting other things in. Chances are, you don’t really have a full grasp of your day. Someone else controls your time. Or, perhaps, a lot of other people do.
I would venture to say that someone else controls your thinking, too. If you rely on one primary source for your news and you get bent out of shape when you see things posted on Facebook, you’re not paying attention.
As politically off-putting as this might sound, this is about your own “border wall.” You haven’t been really careful about what you are you choosing to allow into YOU. From the TV you watch to the...
You have dreams and aspirations. Maybe they’re active. Or, maybe they’re buried. And in this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, we’re looking at the Quest you’re on.
Daring to honor your dreams is an entirely separate topic. Let’s just put it out there: You owe it to yourself and the people you serve to step further into your dreams because the chances are likely that you become a better human for doing so. And that means, you enhance those around you. Bottom line on the Pursuing Your Dreams thing – Do It!!!
How do you know that the quest you’re on is the right one?
The answer is simple – your passion ignites. Your quest becomes a calling.
I’ll go personal here for a second to see if this resonates with you. For a long time, I don’t think I had anything I called a hobby. I practiced and taught martial arts. I performed magic in a local night club on a weekly basis....
You’re on a quest. You have a direction. You’re asking for support.
And then… someone put’s a little pin-prick in your balloon by saying something like, “I don’t think that’s such a great idea. It’s not something *I* want to do.”
Your balloon deflates slowly. And in this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne, we’re looking at what to do when you get pushback.
You could take that as a personal affront.
The idea and the project were yours and someone doesn’t like the idea and, worse, doesn’t want to go along?
You could get super-parental. “Oh you WILL do this because I said so.” That’s using positional authority and will get zero buy-in, though you may get your way. And, you’re not that kind of leader. You don’t fling your power about based on your title or position.
So, what to do? Well dear leader, you get to get curious....
This week’s Wednesdays With Wayne invites you to explore some irritants you have carried all these years, those stories you’ve hung onto, and the wrongs that you know deep down, can never be made right.
Today, you get to look at how to break free of all of that.
Welcome to a new vitality.
A few days ago, I did a FB Live Video that centered around second chances. In the video, I asked a few questions:
These are the building blocks to THE Step that will set you on the path to living with greater freedom.
When you’ve felt wronged, your reaction will go in a couple of predictable directions: You either lash out, retaliating for the violation, or you withdraw, awaiting an apology. On either path, you have made a judgement about the other person.
This week’s Wednesdays With Wayne focuses on how we become who we are and how we break free from who we were. Drawing on my background in psychology, let’s take a ride back to childhood and adolescence.
The short version is this – First, there’s Mother+Child. That’s all one unit.
As the child grows, there’s a sense of “separate” though the emotional bond is still prevalent.
The child learns that she/he can impact the world (by pulling on things, crawling, etc.) and the seeds of independence are planted.
This repeats in adolescence. There’s a sense of being a part OF the family and then there comes a point of resistance to prove differentiation and become apart FROM the family. (A quick grammatical aside: notice the difference between a part of and apart from. That’s a little English lesson for those that think apart is always one word.)
We see that drive to separate (called...
My clients ask me some great questions. This week’s Wednesdays With Wayne is in response to an inquiry about how to be a high performer in the world and still deal with all the stuff that falls on you. It feels personal, like you’re just trying to make your way in the world, and something falls on you. That B.S. that comes down on you feels like it could bury you. And yet, you DynamicLeader® you… You’re finding your way to a light in the darkness.
I’m reminded of a parable that talks about farmer’s donkey who fell into a dry well. No one could figure out how to get the donkey out. The well was too tough to get down into and tie a rope around the donkey. After some deliberation, the farmer decided that since it was a dry well, he’d have to say farewell to his donkey and just fill in the dry well.
He got a group together to begin filling in the hole. The donkey was stuck. It was dark. And...
One of my private coaching clients just asked me about Work/Life Balance. He pointed to an article that said it’s time to bust the myth of balance. It’s funny, because it’s long past time. With a slight flare of ego, I noted that I’ve been saying that for the past decade. So in this week’s Wednesdays With Wayne (your weekly blog of inspiration and insight), we’ll explore this concept and the concept of What Tacos Have To Do With Work/Life Balance!!!
Alright, so there we are. Each of us is given a handful of hours each day, well, 24 of them to be exact. We all have the same amount (unless you’re changing time zones or you’re facing a shortage due to an arbitrary shift on Sunday for daylight savings time). But all of that is beside the point. The point is this: We all have 24 hours in a day.
Sometime back in the 80s (that’s the 1980s) someone decided that they were working too hard....
I had lunch with a friend and a deep background of struggle. His insights inspire me and even as we walked to the parking lot, the challenges to thinking continued. We talked about kids. We talked about our businesses and what lay before us. We talked about our own personal development. And we each shared a bit about the significant transitions we’re in.
My friend and I each talked about the love and respect we have for what brought us to this place. As I said, we’re each facing our own transitions personally and professionally.
Maybe you can relate. You’ve been traveling down a path that seemed so right and so aligned and then some outside force came in and spotlighted the opportunity (or need) to take a different path. You could be pretty happy on the path you’re on. You could, at the same time, be aching for more…. You could be longing or something bigger as somehow, your life seems just a little smaller than...
Do you ever have the feeling that you’re being watched? It’s not a paranoid thing. It’s a reality. You really ARE being watched!
The odd thing about social media and selfie sticks and all the public attention that happens is that you might end up asking yourself, “Do I look okay?” Instead, we all need to be asking ourselves, “Who is watching me today?”
For better or worse, you are a role model for others.
Your family is watching how you show up and respond in certain situations.
Your team is watching how you show up and respond.
And since you’d like to be seen as someone who is present and (mostly) in control of themselves, you need to be worried less about what you look like and more about who you are being for the people around you.
You are seen and judged.
We all are.
The question really is in whether your authentic self is showing up consistently.
I used to show up as “DR Pernell” with a capital...