I’m a father, a husband, a son, a cousin, a kick-ass High-Performance advisor, a senior consultant, a director of organization development, a neighbor, a customer, an author, a speaker, and on… and on… and on….
Each of these roles is in relation to another. To you, the reader, I’m the author and perhaps your advisor. To my wife, I’m her husband. To my kids, I’m the papa. Each person I encounter wants or needs something different from me. At my core I don’t change. Yet for each person, I’m different.
We all are. We’re different people to each person we encounter. Never was that more clear than when I was a pre-school teacher. Each little being had their own way of encountering the world and interacting with those around him/her. Each had his/her own level of wonder. And each needed something different. As the teacher, I had to be different in an instant in order to meet the needs of each individual.
And then I went to work at a halfway house for schizophrenics. These lovely people were learning to reintegrate in society. They each had their own way of encountering the world and interacting with those around them. They each had their own level of wonder. And each needed something different. As the counselor, I had to be different in an instant in order to meet the needs of each individual.
We each have a unique understanding of the world. We each have a unique understanding of how the world works, what guides it, the rules of interaction or engagement with others, and a personal sense of entitlement or fairness. We each also have a unique understanding of what binds us together. As humans, most of us recognize that there’s something more.
There is The Force, God, Source, One, and a variety of other names for what runs through us and extends beyond us. How we each connect with that Spirit is unique. Many millions of people read The Bible daily. While there’s a general understanding of the words on the page, the interpretation is (dare I say “divinely”) unique!
We are different people to those with whom we interact.
At our core, we are human balls of energy connecting with all around us. How we are reflects who we are. Have you ever been upset about something and found someone whose calm demeanor just put you at ease right away? What was it about him/her that allowed for that transformation?
In a word, Grace. The person who exuded that calm found a way to tap into gratitude and love. Recognizing that we’re all connected energetically gives you a choice about how you wish to show up for others.
You connect beyond yourself by tapping into love, gratitude, and even forgiveness.
When we’re trapped in the role (pick one) given by another, we fight with the sense of Spirit that pulls us from beyond. By just thinking about it and taking a breath right now, you can find that space of Grace. Who in your world needs more love right now? Who needs to feel your gratitude? And who needs forgiveness?
Ahhhh, take one more breath.
Whoever you were thinking about does need that from you.
There’s one other person that you need to be thinking about as well.
Get ready to give more love, more gratitude, and more forgiveness to your self. Connecting with Spirit means shedding the roles that others demand you play and stepping into a space that is both unique from and attached to others around you.
So what can you do right now to enter a place of joy, love, gratitude and respect for yourself right now?
Spend a couple of minutes and think about that question. Do some writing. Reach out to someone else and bring Grace.