Psychological safety is an inside job. Noone can give it to you. You have to recognize that what you’re doing is meaningful, that you can ask for acknowledgment, and that you have hope about the future. These are the three key elements of psychological safety. I start here with the idea of trusting yourself first because who is responsible for your life? YOU are. Just you.

Define what you want.
Ask for what you want.
Take best-next-steps action to get what you want.

To build trust with yourself you need to be clear about what you believe in and then work toward living into that ideal every day without being swayed by outrage, approval/disapproval, or any judgment from anyone outside of yourself. 

Get clear. Live into your purpose. Talk about your vision. Then take action.

The more you do that and the more you see that by taking action, you teach your subconscious that you are trustworthy.

The opposite is true, as well.
If you tell yourself that today is a 2,000 calorie or fewer day, and then you proceed to the fast-food chain and order the super-sized version, you have proven to yourself that you’re not trustworthy.

Be your word, to yourself first. With everything you do. Everything.
I’ll do the dishes before I go to bed because I have a deal with myself that I like to awaken to a clean sink. It helps with my morning routine.

Where did I blow it? I’d put too many things on my to-do list and tell myself that I’d stick with it till it was done. Unfortunately, there were more tasks than hours. So I’d continually prove to myself that I was untrustworthy with follow-through. That became a subconscious story. It then became part of my operating system. 

I’d say yes to more than I could handle. And then, the practice was to cut my to-do list by 75%. Yes, I did 25% of what was on my original list to be able to prove trustworthiness to myself. If I wanted to add more after I selected my top six items, great. After. 

Take action. Do something you haven’t done. Prove to yourself that you can step into the unknown (even if it’s cutting what is known down, that becomes an unknown habit). 

Let living into your word become your new habit. When you become trustworthy with yourself, you stop apologizing. You live in gratitude. And you realize that with every new commitment and every time you follow through, you didn’t die. You actually feel… good!

Becoming trustworthy with yourself takes practice. So, practice! If you stray from your agreement with yourself, pause. Reset. Bring yourself back on track. YOU are not bad, wrong, stupid, shameful. You are learning and willing to become better. 

That’s you, making your magic. Keep doing that!

= Wayne = 

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