Exponential Success Summit February 24 & 25 in Napa

No Tug-of-War Without This

wednesdays with wayne Nov 09, 2022

“I’m right.” 

“No, I’m right!!!”

The shouting goes back and forth and there’s no exit to this “right-fighting.”


No one goes into a debate to be convinced by the other side. We’re each so ready to convince the others that our way is the only way, that we fail to see any sliver of possibility that there might be a different way. 


The truth is, we all miss something. 

In my most recent TEDx that has climbed past three-quarters of a million views, I spoke about the need for a Parallax Perspective. If you approach every situation with the knowledge that you’re missing something, then you’ll actually get further in influencing others. 


Right-fighting is like a bad game of eternal tug-of-war. And yet there is no tug of war if you’re not picking up the rope!


Getting people to do what you want or to believe the way you want them to is often mistakenly about control. 

Reaching agreement doesn’t have to be about dominance; in reality, it’s about engagement.


How might you approach a situation (at a holiday gathering, for example) if you knew you were missing part of the story? And how might you introduce the idea that the other(s) might be missing a part of your story, inviting them to inquire (rather than demanding they receive)?


Right-fighting doesn’t have to exist.

In fact, if you think about the times you’ve done so, you’ll find how wasteful it was. You can let someone else feel “right” about their arguments without having to convince them otherwise.




Other people can have a point of view different from yours and it doesn’t affect who you are. Isn’t that magical?  Yep, in fact, the more you realize the power of that, the more control you actually have in your own life.


Breathe in, breathe out, and smile about not having to pick up the rope.


Keep making your magic.


= Wayne = 

If you’re really ready to be deliberate about where you invest your time and energy, then it’s time to invest in your personal and professional well-being. Plan on a personal get-away to work on yourself in February in beautiful Napa! My signature elite Exponential Success Summit is made up of people like you! It’s a small group (of a dozen people or fewer) who are committed to their personal and professional well-being and growth. We’re in Napa on February 3rd and 4th. Seats are already selling. 

To hold your place at the table and to save $1,000 off of the standard tuition, go to http://ExponentialSuccessSummit.com and use the code ESSFEB1K (that’s for Exponential Success Summit in February, $1K off).


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